WHO’S RUNNING THE SHOW IN YOUR LIFE?
Can we talk about how you are wired to behave in a certain way that you don’t even know about?
This may apply to you or someone you know. For example, if you feel like you are in ‘Overwhelm’ like many people are these days – you might have gone into auto-pilot due to chronic daily stress & multitasking … and you may not even be ‘behind your eyes.’
What I mean is, you might be functioning but you aren’t present. You may be ‘next-ing’ which means that while you are successfully multitasking, you may be in the fear of the future and the past all at the same time. If this is the case, who is running the show in your life right now???
If you continue managing your life like a runaway train, your life will eventually catch up with you. Just know that there will be consequences and more messes for you to clean up.
Btw, the consequences of mismanaging and negotiating the out of control pace can show up in your Health, your Money $tory, your Relationships, your Confidence, just to name a few.
If you are STRESSED to the max, you need to look at your inner programming.
Go up into your settings (aka – your systems preferences ~ your hard wiring from childhood) … you may be surprised to find out that this isn’t even your program … it could be a narcissistic parent perhaps or trauma … maybe an unhealed belief is making decisions for you?
Who is it that is telling you how and what you need to do to be You?
My client Tracy, (not her real name,) is very efficient at getting all the ticks off her list everyday. From the outside world, she looks amazing and her life is all perfect; tidy beautiful home, she dresses impeccably, good parent to her children, good wife, runs her own home business, yet when we first started working together, she was not available to recognize when she was heading into ‘Overwhelm.’ She was on auto-pilot and the hoops that she needed to jump through daily had no room for error. She was a perfectionist.
After decades of self judging and scrutinizing what is right and how daily tasks need to be done, Tracey realized that she was in fear of her yelling, raging father. Keep in mind that her father has been deceased for decades, however his programmed authority was co-existing in HER Systems Preferences! Ouch!
Because of the trauma from her father, she was hyper aware of how frightened she was to be in unfamiliar social situations and this was debilitating to her quality of life. She was walking on eggshells with herself and pretending to pull it off. She discovered that she is a ‘sensitive empath’ with unclear boundaries for herself.
Bit by bit Tracey started witnessing fearful younger parts of herself that were not functioning in the present moment. Today she can see that the part of her that was in a constant fear response … was yelling at her just like her Dad with angry self talk to get the job done AND … DO IT RIGHT, OR ELSE!
What most people think is that we need to get rid of this angry part so we can have some peace and relax, right?
What we really need to understand is that this part was doing its very best to keep her safe from the shame of failure and punishment.
We want to acknowledge and thank this loyal part and give it a new job. So, in this case the conflict within Tracey was leading us to the antidote to heal the inner child.
I also think of the antidote like an energetic tincture. When we acknowledge the wounded part with our words, the part gets seen and heard and can lean in closer to trust that WE are the authority, not a grumpy stressed parent that had no skills to heal their own past wounding.
The overwhelm in her ‘perfect’ life was a smoke signal to hit the ‘pause button’ and check in with her truth. She can now see that she was doing this to herself. This was the first step to making any change with her programming.
With this fast paced automated lifestyle, we especially need to protect ourself from automating our lives. Panic, fear and anziety will become the norm on some level (like bad inner government that touts fake news) if we don’t learn to come home to our own inner truth.
I also want to acknowledge the brave soul that Tracey is, because with the help of her family doctor, she is now completely off her anti-anziety meds and is retraining her systems preferences. She is getting her present moments back into her ‘now.’
She is learning how to be her own ‘Artist of Change’ and her own accountability partner. Tracey is trusting her decisions and learning that it’s safe to receive her love filled life.
Here’s a fun acronym that I created for the word STRESS 🙂
T – TALK-SICK
R – RECORDINGS
E – EVENTUALLY
S – SUSTAINS & SUPPORTS
S – SELF
Listen to your body and nervous system, for it holds all the information to heal you. The truth will set you free!
Please forward this to a loved one if it might help them to see a light flickering at the end of the tunnel.
I am at your service and would love to tell you more about The Soular Healing Method®. We can discuss your hardwiring on a free Discovery Call. You can also hit reply if you wish to comment. I would love to hear from you!
Stay Tuned To YOU
Love & Peace ~ Dana